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thank you for the great read! i love the point u made about friendship not being a zero sum game. i think one offshoot of capitalism brain is quantification brain, as per the person making a rating system for her “friends” :/ like some things dont need numbers!!

if u havent come by it, i super recommend this episode of “how to talk to people” titled “what do we owe our friends?” https://open.spotify.com/episode/419g8kcJVW30G6DqQIvW6w?si=ZvvHomNRQ1C15lps8MOnhg, which i’m still thinking about!

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oooo thank you thank you thank you i'll check this out <3

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I loved reading this, you explore the ideas so well. I have recently thought that my friendships ARE transactional but perhaps this is the wrong language because I agree with what you're saying. Rather, I'm very careful to give away all of myself unless there's and equal balance of give and take in newer connections. Anyway, I can't get over that "break up" script. The irony!

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Thank you!! I agree, relationships are give-and-take, but transitional is maybe the wrong word! The script is hilarious.

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The therapist even uses corporate terms like 'invest' and 'reevaluate '!! Gosh! Love how you've spotted how the system creeps in everywhere!

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exactly!!

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Loved this, you're so right about the transactional and corporate feel to these examples! I feel like I accidentally gave that kind of icky scripted response to a friend though once, haha, because I didn't want to ghost her OR tell her the real reasons (which were small but in the hundreds and added up to = I don't want to be friends anymore). Cringe!

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can't believe i missed this! Haha, I know what you mean, I was thinking back to all my ghosting and I feel guility, but I don't know the better way to do it!! Definitely not in this way though.

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