thank you for the great read! i love the point u made about friendship not being a zero sum game. i think one offshoot of capitalism brain is quantification brain, as per the person making a rating system for her “friends” :/ like some things dont need numbers!!
I loved reading this, you explore the ideas so well. I have recently thought that my friendships ARE transactional but perhaps this is the wrong language because I agree with what you're saying. Rather, I'm very careful to give away all of myself unless there's and equal balance of give and take in newer connections. Anyway, I can't get over that "break up" script. The irony!
Loved this, you're so right about the transactional and corporate feel to these examples! I feel like I accidentally gave that kind of icky scripted response to a friend though once, haha, because I didn't want to ghost her OR tell her the real reasons (which were small but in the hundreds and added up to = I don't want to be friends anymore). Cringe!
can't believe i missed this! Haha, I know what you mean, I was thinking back to all my ghosting and I feel guility, but I don't know the better way to do it!! Definitely not in this way though.
thank you for the great read! i love the point u made about friendship not being a zero sum game. i think one offshoot of capitalism brain is quantification brain, as per the person making a rating system for her “friends” :/ like some things dont need numbers!!
if u havent come by it, i super recommend this episode of “how to talk to people” titled “what do we owe our friends?” https://open.spotify.com/episode/419g8kcJVW30G6DqQIvW6w?si=ZvvHomNRQ1C15lps8MOnhg, which i’m still thinking about!
oooo thank you thank you thank you i'll check this out <3
I loved reading this, you explore the ideas so well. I have recently thought that my friendships ARE transactional but perhaps this is the wrong language because I agree with what you're saying. Rather, I'm very careful to give away all of myself unless there's and equal balance of give and take in newer connections. Anyway, I can't get over that "break up" script. The irony!
Thank you!! I agree, relationships are give-and-take, but transitional is maybe the wrong word! The script is hilarious.
The therapist even uses corporate terms like 'invest' and 'reevaluate '!! Gosh! Love how you've spotted how the system creeps in everywhere!
exactly!!
Loved this, you're so right about the transactional and corporate feel to these examples! I feel like I accidentally gave that kind of icky scripted response to a friend though once, haha, because I didn't want to ghost her OR tell her the real reasons (which were small but in the hundreds and added up to = I don't want to be friends anymore). Cringe!
can't believe i missed this! Haha, I know what you mean, I was thinking back to all my ghosting and I feel guility, but I don't know the better way to do it!! Definitely not in this way though.